Millions of Americans are glued to the TV to follow the drama of the Bachelor and Bachelorette series. As Americans we have welcomed reality TV into our homes and take it personally. I do enjoy Bachelorette and find it an interesting specimen of human interactions. Is this really how people would act if they didn't have cameras on them? Why is it that they become so much more scandalous if moved to Bachelor Pad? As a counselor I enjoyed watching the main character, this season's Ashley, growing through her relationships so gracefully <note my sarcasm>. I noticed that she made mistakes but, her resiliency carried her through to the end. She really zeroed in on the prize.
Now, the "happily engaged couple" are public. They really do seem happy. I don't want to be cynical but, I don't want to be naive either in believing this is real. How long do you think it takes to know that you can spend the rest of your life with someone? Do you believe in this type of system to find a mate?
The biggest problem I have with this systematic way of finding love is that there are multiple people who the Bachelorette is supposedly "in love" with at once. How can this be? Is the Bachelorette physically intimate with both men she is in love with? In this case, couldn't it just be the increased oxytocin levels making her think it is love? I don't want to assume anything but, it seems unlikely that nothing happens on these overnight dates. I would love to hear what others think of this.
And then there's the men. Poor Ben was rejected after his proposal. He was very confident that he was going to be engaged but, had to walk away alone. He even asked Ashley later during the "After the final rose" episode, when she made her decision. I found it peculiar but, not surprising that she never gave him a straight answer. Was it because even she didn't know until that last day? Or did she choose JP because her sister didn't approve.
What do you think? Do you think love can be found this way?
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